The advent of social media has been a blessing to some people but it has mostly affected some people who are easily carried away by what they see. When people think of social media, it is thought of as a revolutionary innovation that allows us to post photos, tell people how we feel or catch up with friends. But this social media is now obviously characterized by extravagant display of lifestyles mostly fake with a firm symbolic way of concealing the real individuals behind the scene.
With social media platforms, most people hide behind screens, allowing others to judge us for the lives we want them to think we have, the lives we portray online. Most people have ended up being depressed, dejected, angry and suddenly become extremely jealous and even cranky because of the unwholesome comparison of the painted extravagancy they see on social media, comparing what they see with their present state.
Some homes have been shattered, while others have become a shadow of themselves solely because they are running with other people’s compass for a direction and journey that is exclusive to them alone. They take a peep into other people’s life’s journey, weighing it on the balance of other people’s achievement, they thus begin to blame their spouse for the slow pace in their journey.
Some social media enthusiast have made it a habit to oppress and flaunt pseudo-wealth in order to impress and be seen on the pedestal of extreme wealth and affluence in a bid to cover up their low self-esteem and extreme sorry state.
Recently, on a sunny Sunday afternoon, immediately after church service, I left the auditorium heading home. Looking ahead of me, I sighted a man in his car drive off like he had an appointment and perhaps running late. Because I had no vehicle so I had to trek to the gate which was a bit far from the auditorium. As I kept trekking, a jeep drove past me few steps away. The car however slowed down and one of the occupants of the car beckoned on me to come in. On getting closer, I noticed that the occupant was my dad’s client. Without further ado, I hopped in with a sense of fulfillment because I won’t have to trek and struggle to get a bus.
As we journeyed, we encountered a slowly moving gridlock. As we moved a bit, I noticed behind us the same car that drove off around the auditorium earlier. Seeing this vehicle, I immediately recapped in my mind how he sped off from the church auditorium. I least expected that we could still catch up with him and even overtake him. I however wondered what could have happened to him that slowed him down.
Realistically, I thought about this deeply on how human beings by default react when we see our friends, contemporaries, or people around us move forward in terms of achievement when it seems we are stagnant or perhaps moving at a slow pace. Some gained admission while you are busy writing and re-writing pre-tertiary exams. Some landed a mouth-watering job while you are still in the business of job hunting. Some jetted out of the country while you keep having endless vigils just to obtain a visa. Others got married when it seems like you will ever remain single. Furthermore, some of your close friends kick-started their dreams while yours seems like a complete mirage! But I must tell you this- there’s an irony of early journey. The fact that a friend or a country started a journey before you, doesn’t necessarily mean they will arrive their destination before you.
Dear reader, you know Nigeria started on a positive note of developmental stride of superb infrastructure, excellent education, well planned housing systems, exceptional agricultural production for export, fantastic health facilities that made medical tourism not important, but reasonable countries who were far below Nigeria then focused on their own journey, and now, they have moved from being poverty capital, to be a force to be reckoned with in the comity of nations.
You see, a lot of things happen during a journey. Even in our life’s journey, a lot of things happen. But when you get carried away by someone else’s journey, you will forget to adequately prepare for your journey. Even during a physical journey on the road, a lot of things might go wrong which can slow down or delay one’s journey. This is however applicable in life’s journey which people are ignorant of. They assume and conclude that their friends and contemporaries have gone far in terms of achievement, but they are completely in the dark about the little challenges they are passing through that might have decelerated them.
However, a serious minded individual should concentrate on his own journey. The period of delay before kick-starting your success journey should be a period of real preparation (physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally and financially), training and fortification. It is basically sheer absurdity if this period is used for complaining, lamentation and under studying other people’s journey.
Dear friends, the question is- what do you engage in during your periods of delay? Are you overly concerned and monitoring other people’s progress? Do you follow people on social media because you want to compare their life with yours? Do you get bitter because they are ahead of you? Do you engage in unwholesome comparism of achievements? Are you constantly complaining and insulting God? Do you engage in blame games?
Nigeria can only succeed if we look inwards, focus solely on our own issues and challenges, strategizing on how we can deal with the situations holistically instead of focusing on other countries and their strides without learning from them.
Remember, you have only one life to live, focus on your life’s journey, depend on God and prepare well to make your journey in life successful and itch free!
Olaoluwa Josiah OLAJIDE